Do you want positive feelings or positive outcomes? (Gopi Bahu reference)
As I write this, I imagine a fake audience clapping loudly in sync…because finally, after a long time, I am writing something, anything.
Have you had someone who eases your anxiety? They don’t even know they do that. You just talk to them and voilà, all is good in the world again.
Whenever you feel a little out of place, you talk to them. Without even realizing it, a habit is built. A weird attachment is formed. You start trusting them, allowing yourself to open up. And just when you put all your eggs in one basket — they drop it. All eggs are broken and dhum tana nana is playing in the background.
You stand there feeling like Gopi Bahu. But at least Ahem was her husband, you got played by a situationship.
Tables turned a full 180 degrees, and now that same person is causing you anxiety.
Advice of the day? Either financially or emotionally — don't put all your eggs in one basket. Because they will enjoy an omelet and you will end up whining on an online blogging platform.
But if somehow by miracle they come back and la la la la starts playing in the background. Stop right there.
At this moment, you have a choice to make. Yes, talking to them will ease your anxiety, and you will feel good at the moment, but then what? You know the outcome, don’t you? Protect your eggs, ladies and gentlemen. (Pun intended).
When you think about it, this rule applies to every scenario in our life. It all comes down to what you want. Do you want to feel good temporarily, or do you want a more permanent solution with fewer negative consequences?